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The Power of Survival: Pam's Story October 19, 2004 • By Pam
Pam's Story
My mom was abused by daddy and I was basically in the middle. Lots of conflict in the home, tears, drama and no help from the police. Oh and before I forget, he did pull a gun on my mom but we were blessed by having a family member in the house when that happened.
Back in the day when it was considered a "family discussion" my mom survived this horrific experience and I learned to unlearn the negative attitudes and personalities that go along with living in a situation where everything had to be "perfect" and although he is not in my life, I am grateful that my mom and other sibling survived. (I’ll tell the full story on the show.)
For the ladies who have experienced it, do not be "queens of punishment" to yourself. It is NOT your fault. You are not responsible for MAKING someone hit you. Everyone has self-control. When someone hits you or verbally abuses you it is their LACK OF SELF- CONTROL.
My mom has lived a nice quiet life after this experience.
Love yourself. If he loves you, he doesn't have to put his hands on you, doesn't have to talk down to you, doesn't have to financially bind you. Domestic Violence is not only about hitting but there are 7 parts to domestic with physical abuse being one.
You love yourself, find a friend to help you out, until you are able to help yourself. If you have children, find a safe place to be. Yes, it will be hard to get away from the abuser, but you want to live? If so, do it for your self and your soul.
There are community organizations that help out. Take advantage of them. If you can't find one, get a hold of a community person -- social worker, youth worker, counselor, police officer, etc. If you are in Chicago there is a Domestic Violence Hotline. I can send the number once I find it for ya’ll. Peace and always stay in the light.
-Pam
Have you ever said to yourself, “I wish I could change……….…” or “If I only had larger or smaller…………..…….”? Having a negative body image affects all of us at one time or another. Unfortunately, because of low self-esteem or personal experiences, it haunts some more than others. But, even if you've learned to love your body and have come out of the “I wish” phase, mostly all women can sympathize with our girlfriends, daughters, sisters and mothers that still have to learn how to embrace, accept and love themselves. This article is for all my girlfriends who have felt the disappointment of trying on that pair of jeans that used to fit last year.
Have you ever said to yourself, “I wish I could change……….…” or “If I only had larger or smaller…………..…….”? Having a negative body image affects all of us at one time or another. Unfortunately, because of low self-esteem or personal experiences, it haunts some more than others. But, even if you've learned to love your body and have come out of the “I wish” phase, mostly all women can sympathize with our girlfriends, daughters, sisters and mothers that still have to learn how to embrace, accept and love themselves. This article is for all my girlfriends who have felt the disappointment of trying on that pair of jeans that used to fit last year.
Inescapable media images of sexed-up girls and women posing as adolescents can cause psychological and even physical harm to adolescents and young women, a study in the US has warned. |
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