The man/woman that is "not into you" practices a few of the following:

-Consistently breaks promises
-Consistently is not around when you really need them
-Doesn't call you or leaves messages on your voice mail

When dealing with any of the following, it is up to you to decide whether the person is really into you. I really hate when people make promises they can't keep. I mean, I am an understanding
person. I know things happen where a person may not be able to deliver on a promise. But when it is so consistent it is up to you to decide what is going to work for you. Do you want to be with a
person who is unreliable? If they are unreliable in the beginning, they will stay the same throughout the relationship with you.

When someone shows you that they can't be respectful to you to support you, you need to take that in account. When someone is not around when you really need them, how can you trust them to have your back in rougher times. With the person I called myself in love with, he lied about things, he didn't have my back on things, and I had to rationalize about things by lying to myself. It's not a good thing to do to yourself. And you deserve much better.

When someone can't even call you back, it's disrespectful to me. That's just my opinion and I could be totally wrong. When you have to run around constantly calling someone to get to them can be very irritating and if you can pick up the phone...so can they. It's a lame excuse as far as I'm concerned. If the person is really into you, then they will take the time to call and leave a message even if they can't reach you. But if they can't even pick up the phone? That is sending a clear message. The person is not interested..move on.

YOU ARE DIVINE

There is no real reason to be upset when a person is ignoring you and you are "into" them. Ask yourself this question, "how can I be into someone who's not into me?" You are a beautiful being and deserve to be treated like a queen/king. But if you are allowing yourself to daydream about a person who's not into you, it cab be like a nightmare. You have to move from infatuation to working on self-esteem, body image, and foundation. You don't have to waste valuable time on a person who's not into you. It doesn't mean they are evil. It just means, you need to concentrate on yourself; feeling good, living your life, being positive, and working on your personal goals. Taking your time to treat yourself like the divine being God created you to be. Create a special space for yourself and enjoy the life you have. I learned a few years ago that I needed to change my image of myself FOR myself. Stop living in a daydream and deal with reality.


Spend time with yourself and let life open its opportunities to you. Your self-esteem and life is dependent upon you taking your happiness in your hands and molding it to your specifications.
Let's not waste more time on people who are not into us. We need to move on and live and love those who want to be in our space. We have to stop blocking the other blessings God is providing.

It is all up to us to live divinely for ourselves.
(c) 2004 by Pam Osbey
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